“I am a part of all that I have touched and that has touched me.”
Today, as I was travelling in the MRT, in Singapore, my eye caught a bunch of school kids who were laughing and talking about something, which I assume must have been really funny. And then, like a flashback, I remembered my good old school days and my dear friends. Friends—they come into your life and enrich it by their sheer presence. There comes a time, when one realizes that one’s accomplishments and unique journey through life have been made richer by the presence of those who have touched not only one’s body, but also one’s mind and one’s spirit. This is my tribute to all of my great friends who have touched my life in my 35 years of existence on Mother Earth—gifted and gracious people who have left an incredible if not indelible impression upon me for which I shall be eternally grateful.
Today, we categorize people we know into many buckets. But for me, all my true friends have been explorers because they helped me discover a new world inside me, which was untouched and unborn before their arrival. When I was growing up, my sister gave me this wonderful book, “The Little Prince”. And I will be ever thankful to her because this book opened a world of imagination for me—beautiful and pure. And let me reproduce a small section from that book where there is this beautiful conversation between The Little Prince and The Fox, which highlights friendship and the value of true friends.
“I am looking for friends. What does that mean — tame?”
“It is an act too often neglected,” said the fox. “It means to establish ties.”
“To establish ties?”
“Just that,” said the fox. “To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world….”
Sometime back, I read this article and found it interesting, hence I felt like reproducing it in my blog post as well. It says, people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is; you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lessons that lasts a lifetime; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
And I am blessed to have lifetime friends—it all began from school (we were the three musketeers) and still going young. I say young, cause it is a great feeling to gain a friend; a true friend. Because it is never the length of the time spent with a person that determines if she or he is a true friend who knows you or understands you, it is something that is felt; you cannot describe it in words. So to all my dearest friends, you are always there in my thoughts, we might not be talking on a daily basis but then friendship is not measured by the number of chats and phone calls only, it is felt from heart.
Will leave you with this thought, “Though miles may lie between us; we are never far apart, for friendship does not count miles; it is measured by the heart.”